On Sharing the Hard Things
Why I share such personal stories and one I've had so much shame around that I've never shared before.
I’ve been reflecting a lot on what I share here and why. In my 20s, when I felt lost and alone, I would have given anything to hear from someone who rebuilt their life and found happiness.
We all have our hard things. None of what I share is meant to play the victim or suggest my experiences were harder than anyone else’s. But I know how dark and isolating hopelessness can feel—and I know many can relate to those feelings. If sharing my story helps someone feel less alone, it’s worth it.
I feel incredibly lucky to be where I am today and to have a platform where I can share these stories. When we’re honest about life, motherhood, and the struggles we face, we create connection—and feel less alone in whatever hard thing we’re going through.
This is where my podcast comes in. I’m moving forward with it, though I still don’t have a name (all the good ones are taken!). My goal is to figure that out and start recording in January or February 2025—which is…weeks away. I have nearly 20 guests lined up, and we’ll have real conversations about life, family, work, and the challenges women face. I don’t know where this will go, but I’m excited to have these conversations.
Whether I’m raising awareness for pediatric cancer, discussing going no-contact with a parent, sharing what it’s like to parent without parents, or talking about my breast reduction and taking control of my health, it feels essential to tell these stories. It’s healing for me, and it’s meaningful to use what I’ve been through to help others. If I can’t use this platform to truly make a difference, what’s the point?
I talked to my therapist about all this during our last session because the holidays seem to bring it all to the surface, don’t they? But it feels very different this year. Less sad and more reflective – I feel so grateful to be where I am and to be able to give my children the things they need as they grow up.
There’s also a story I’ve never shared—one most of my friends don’t even know. Stories like this are easiest to share with smaller, more intimate groups. While anyone could access it, sharing with my paid subscriber list feels safer. Even though most people won’t relate to this exact experience, if it helps someone let go of shame, it’ll be worth it. After almost 30 years, I finally feel ready to put it out there.