On Going No-Contact

When things shifted and how I made the decision to stop talking to my mom

When I shared this reel, my decision to go no-contact with my parents kept coming up. Most people responded with support and appreciation for how honest I was, and for choosing to prioritize my well-being and the well-being of my family. Still, a few were quick to judge. For some, cutting ties with a parent might seem "unnatural" or "unkind." And I get that—because it didn’t feel natural to me either. It wasn’t a decision I made lightly, and it took almost 40 years and a lot of pain to finally protect myself.

And it has to be said that it doesn’t matter what others think. I know why I made the decision, and I stand by it. I’m not here to tell everyone to go no-contact if things aren’t perfect, but I am here to tell you that it’s ok to stop speaking to someone who abuses you. Abuse is never ok.

I didn’t technically go no-contact with my dad. I made the decision to step away but never heard from him again. But today, I want to talk about what led me to go no-contact with my mom, how I did it, and why it’s okay to choose peace, even when it means letting go. I tried to record a reel but my heart started to race as I told my story. Writing feels easier. Safer.

TW: This post discusses SA.

photo by Katie Kett