We expect most friendships to evolve over time. Some naturally fade away. Others fall apart. But we are never prepared for the heartbreak of a friend passing away. In early 2024, I lost a friend who I had only known for a short time, but in that time, we became very close. It was one of the most confusing and painful losses I’ve experienced. Confusing because I felt guilt feeling as sad as I did. Did I have the right to grieve her when my loss didn’t compare to those who loved her for years?
We hadn’t even been friends for a full year, yet there was an undeniable connection between us. Something real and meaningful that I know we both felt, because we talked about it.
My loss will never come close to what her family felt, and no part of me would imply that that’s the case. And at the same time, losing her reminded me that even when a friendship is newer, the bond can be profound. The loss can still feel heavy. It isn’t a competition.
I want to share the ways I’ve stayed connected to her and what it’s been like to grieve someone who came into my life briefly, but left an impact that will always stay with me.